This episode just features Adam Baldock explaining the inspiration for the idea of Fired Up Dads and where he hopes to take the show and the business.
Adam discusses how the idea came about, what the vision for the project is and what to expect/look forward to into the future.
Understanding the purpose of Fired Up Dads may help you to enjoy the journey more.
Come join Adam and other Dads globally.
Welcome to the triple zero episode of Fired Up Dads, this is the episode where it is just me Adam Baldock talking to you about how and why Fired up Dads exists.
I think if you are going to join me on this journey you need to understand what Fired up dads is trying to achieve and why I am doing what might seem like a strange enterprise.
Whilst most people have been supportive of my plight thus far, they all look at me a bit strangely. They never say it, but you can tell they are asking why.
There is an air of excitement that comes about when you find out you are going to have your first child.
When that youngster arrives the reality can be quite the opposite.
I believe that a lot of men hit this realisation and go through something similar to a grieving process.
Whilst the arrival of your first, second, third or how many ever children you may have is brilliant, but it marks a huge change to your life.
This change can bring many things and thoughts like a change to your relationship with your wife, it is no longer just you and her and your wife’s nature/nurture instinct kicks in. You are no longer the most important thing in your partners life.
You realise you have a dependent and this can bring stupid thoughts like you will never achieve your goals.
Some men grieve for how it used to be.
I was one of these men.
Late last year after a pretty tumultuous five years which you can read about in the Why Fired Up Dads page of the firedupdads.com website, my third child (Harper) was born and for the first time I took some time off to support my wife. I stupidly didn’t do this with my first two kids, Macy & Oscar.
The two weeks I had with Harper was some of the best two weeks of my life.
During this time, I was doing a bit of home maintenance – replacing weather boards on the house.
Whilst banging nails I started to think about what I would do with my life if money wasn’t an issue?
I concluded that my interests lie around adventure racing – multi sports etc – organising them, not necessarily competing – ok maybe a couple. This has been something of interest since my old triathlon days, I just haven’t had time as my career and family have evolved.
I also decided I would likely have a online business of sorts.
Bear in mind all these thoughts are running through my mind whilst I am replacing weatherboards on the back of the house and giving my poor old office bitch hands a workout.
As my thinking continued about this utopic position of money not being an issue I also concluded that I would dabble in an online business. I can’t just sit still you see.
But what would the online business be?
Where was the pain point that I could resolve.
I began to think about my struggle with transition to fatherhood and I thought that if I felt that way, so too would a number of other men.
Now us men are not good at talking and if we are struggling we usually don’t let on.
I decided my online business would be something that could support men and executives in balancing life and family better.
I had been listening to podcasts from a number of sources (Entrepreneur on Fire, Tim Ferris and others) and I suddenly hit on the idea of Fired Up Dads. A weekly podcast that allows men to find out what other men are doing without letting on that there is a problem or a struggle.
I have to say however, that you don’t need to have a problem or a struggle to benefit from the content of Fired Up Dads. I have also structured the show in a way that the information could be gleaned by women as well, in the hope that the information will inspire women to support their men better.
So what is the vision
When my father died and we went to NZ to distribute his ashes, my son Oscar was 2 years old. My brother at the ashes ceremony for our Dad turned to me and said – ‘It’s the meaning of life’. Meaning that continuing a legacy through your children is the meaning of life and having all your children there at your death means that you have done a good job – particularly if they have nice things to say about you.
Really, what else is there? Almost everything else we do won’t matter when we are gone. We may be in a position to change the world dramatically through philanthropic means, innovation or philosophy and I really hope you are and you use that gift to make as much change as you can.
Sooner or later however, someone needs to carry that gift forward when you are gone and who else but your children. It really is the meaning of life.
So I believe that it is important to find that balance between family and career/goal achievement in order to pass on your legacy.
Let’s look at legacy for a moment:
John Grill 67
Gave $20 million to the University of Sydney in October to establish a center for training senior executives to lead large-scale engineering projects around the world. After graduating in science and engineering from the university, he cofounded mining engineering giant WorleyParsons in 1971 and was chief executive for 38 years. Stepped down late last year and now chairs the company and the John Grill Centre for Project Leadership.
Frank Lowy 82
CHAIRMAN, WESTFIELD GROUP
One of the country’s best-known philanthropists. Donations include $30 million to launch a think tank, the Lowy Institute for International Policy, and $10 million to establish the Lowy Cancer Research Centre. Also supports Jewish causes in Australia and Israel. Built his fortune after cofounding global shopping-mall giant Westfield in 1953.
Graham Tuckwell 56
FOUNDER, ETF SECURITIES
Donated $50 million to Canberra’s Australian National University in February, the largest donation ever by an Australian to a university. Will fund an undergraduate scholarship program to promote academic excellence and good citizenship. Graduated in law and economics from the university in 1981, then started a London-based exchange-traded commodities fund. Hopes to encourage other wealthy Australians to give philanthropically rather than pass fortunes on to children, because “lots of money is poisonous to have.”
Whilst these Dads have done great things for the world in philanthropy, would their children have positive things to say? I don’t mean about their philanthropy, it is clearly great, but would their kids say they were always there for them, they have an intimate relationship with their father, they are connected and engaged, that they really understand their fathers life.
I personally can no speculate, although I suspect Graham Tuckwell’s kids are not getting the family fortune, so they won’t be happy.
We live in a busy, high technology world, a world where our connection is with computers and fancy gadgets which allow distance and with it a lack of personal connection with our fellow humans.
Our family and friends association is decaying between the generations and more importantly the connection between dads and their kids is decaying.
Fired Up Dads is about igniting that connection. Helping Dads connect with the next generation and re-balance family life.
Fired Up dads is all about engagement through experience.
Learning through the experiences of other dads via my once weekly podcast
Enjoying experiences together through activities that I hope to start doing in 2016
Working with executive dads to improve productivity and help them to find balance between career and family so they can engage with family better; and
Over time providing resources to help Dads from all walks of life.
I want to take this opportunity to provide an example. Malcolm Gladwell (one of my favorate Authors is best known for his book ‘The Tipping Point’ a fantastic book which I highly recommend. He also wrote an equally fantastic book called ‘The Outliers’. I’ll put links to both on the Fired Up Dads website.
In his book, The Outliers, Gladwell talks about a group of Italian immigrants from a town in Italy called Roseto that migrated to America in the 1800s in pursuit of land. I am giving you the synopsis version to emphasise my point of the importance of family.
They all settled just outside of Bangor Pennsylvania and began to establish their own town. They built, churches and schools and factories etc and more and more immigrants from their hometown migrated and joined them. They eventually named the town after their hometown in Italy; Roseto.
According to Gladwell the town of Roseto was all but an island of Italy in the middle of America.
Along came an American physician called Wolf. Wolf discovered a very low level of heart disease in the residents of the town of Roseto. Residents under the age of 55 were found to have no heart disease and residents over 65 had rates of heart disease half that of the rest of America, in the same age group.
Wolf increased the study and found, there was no suicide, no alcoholism, no drug addiction and very little crime and no one on welfare. They found that health wise, people were simply dying of old age and nothing more.
At first Wolf thought there was a dietary secret, but after analysing the Roseto residents diet it was rife with high calories, cooking in lard, eating hi calorie meals and there was no exercise undertaken, they smoked heavily and most were obese.
Wolf tracked down relatives of the town, living elsewhere in the USA and found the opposite. Wolf reviewed the geographic location and compared Roseto to other similar size towns and demographics – he could not find comparable results.
What Wolf found was that the secret to the health of the residents of the town of Roseto was the connection the residents had with each other. Wolf found that the community, the families cooking for each other, raising each other’s children as one family, having sometimes three generations living under one roof. They found civic responsibility and an egalitarian ethos of community – one of equality.
In some way, Wolf was the founder of holistic medicine and the importance of a sense of family and belonging and its impact on health.
My point being that if this is not a example of the importance of family and sharing life then I cannot think of an alternative.
As modern society becomes less healthy, more disconnected (despite technology which claims to connect people better) and more distant from their neighbours, so emphasises for me at least the importance of Fired Up Dads to re-ignite this connection.
As such you can look forward to some great things in the future for Fired Up Dads.
As we talk I have over 20 interviews complete.
I have interviewed some great Dads and had some amazing discussions. As I have grown I believe I have improved the quality of the interviews and gleaned some fantastic information from these dads.
Look out in the future for Interviews with:
- Dads who have kids with special needs
- Entrepreneur Dads trying to start something whilst balancing a family
- Health experts
- Police Dads
- Psychologists and education professionals
There is something there for everyone.
After having done several interviews I now plan to pivot the show and start to interview Dads in niche areas and do deeper dives into their unique areas of expertise.
I am also hopeful to provide bonus content via podcasts outside of the weekly interview with the CEOs of companies that support Dads to balance family and career, all aimed at providing new information from these sources
So if you want to hear about a certain topic or an interview with a specific person or niche industry/subject. Jump onto FiredUpDads.com and tell me – I will do my best to track it down for you.
Anyway, that’s enough from me, I hope you come and join me on the journey and I hope you get something from what I provide.
If nothing else I hope I can at least provide you inspiration to engage more with your kids and remember that family is the most important thing in life.
Dads of the World I love your work and we will see you next time on Fired Up Dads.