Shane Bilsborough is a father of two, Zoe (9), Scarlett (5). Shane is married to Fiona (Sales & Marketing) and balances this family with a career in health. Shane is an internationally renowned nutrition and exercise expert. He is an international best seller of three books in the health and fitness space, was a key player in the formation of the Foundation for Chronic Disease Prevention and is the founder of the Global Corporate Challenge and more recently Stepathlon. Shane’s list of accolades extends well beyond the snippet I have just provided.
An awesome interview with a man living his life to the fullest.
Key Points of Interview
Type of Dad
Loves to be involved and sits on the committees etc of the sports teams to which his children are involved.
Shane encourages health and participation.
Shane Bilsborough encourages his kids to tell the truth so that they will be in less trouble when he finds out. Shane e-mails his kids teaches weekly to find out what is happening.
Tell the story about your transition between being without Children to being a Dad?
The theme that no one ever tells you is also Shane’s perspective.
Shane discusses the lack of support and the need to learn on the run. He also discusses the lack of recognition of post-natal depression in both the wife and Dads.
The kids don’t want Dad – they want milk.
The discussion goes to the changes that your wife goes through and the whole changes on your life, relationship and overall life structure.
Shane believes that it is important for guys to just open up. You have to be Superman – the rock that binds the family.
Shane also discusses involvement in the early years and how that stand you in good stead for the future.
Hear the discussion around taping yourself being a father.
What struggles did you have with the transition and a time where you may have felt like you messed up?
Shane talks about struggling with the noise when you are processing thoughts about other parts of your life. Shane has learnt that everything unrelated to the family needs to be addresses before you are with your family.
Look for what is working and what is not working – don’t let things get off track to a point that you cannot bring it back.
Shane shares an anecdote involving a situation with his daughter.
Give lots of cuddles.
Tell me the story about how you and your partner created balance in your relationship? Ensure you get time together.
Shane met his wife in a bar – yes, another pub pick up!
Shane talks about maintaining your relationship through the having children process. He was once asked ‘if he loved his wife’. His answer is quite compelling, discussing phases of love and more.
Shane believes that you have to be mates and work together.
Give the listeners your experience in balancing career and family. What in your opinion is the key?
Shane ensures he gets what he needs done in the morning before the family get up. Even on Saturday and Sunday, Shane still sets the alarm for 4.45am and completes his work or exercise etc.
If you want a career and family you need to do more and get the job done.
By getting up an hour early, by the end of the week you have done an extra days work. Work efficacy!
Shane recommends ‘The Monk who sold his Ferrari’ by ……
Eat well and exercise – be healthy.
What is your biggest worry when it comes to your children and how/what are you doing to mitigate these concerns?
Safety is always a fear. Shane talks about a recent event of a 17 year old girl being murdered in a park.
He talks about his children having confidence and he worries about being able to instill confidence in his children. Shane presents issues to his girls in order to teach them strength.
Shane talks about needing a vehicle and present to your children as you would like them to act. Track and field was the vehicle Shane had as a kid. He is an advocate for sport teaching discipline, participation, team work etc.
The discussion goes into an anecdote on commitment.
Shane comes back to building the relationship early, so that your children can confide in you later. He believes this is the key to mitigating your fears for your children.
- Favorite Dads Toy: Ipod – all songs for every emotion.
- Book: Life Lessons for the Monk who Sold his Ferrari – Robin Sharma
- Ensure time for yourself: Get up early (4.45am).
- Innovative Discipline: Cleaning whilst singing a song.
- Family Tradition: Friday night movie and pizza night.
- Personal Habit: Putting myself in their shoes.
Never be scared to try or follow your heart.
Enjoy being with the family.
Shane’s Quote for Life: David Parkin – “The pages of life turn quickly, fill them up”