Matthew Hullett is a father of two boys, Anton aged 15, Max aged 12. Matthew is married to Doris, a German national and Librarian and the family currently reside in the land of the long white cloud – New Zealand.
Key Points of Interview
Type of Dad
A very proud father. Matt believes that he is very engaged and has tried to be a big part of their lives.
Tell the story about your transition between being without Children to being a Dad?
Matt believes that the kids move between phases and once they transition through the park and leave phase things become more challenging.
Time is the challenge and it is hard to find time especially as they explore their individuality.
Matt is concerned that as the kids work through teenage years and the kids become more introverted as they do, they will lose touch. Matt works hard to make sure this doesn’t happen.
Matt tells a great story about how he grabs the day to day moments with the kids to build on his relationships and maintain the connection.
Toughest Dad moment.
Matt tells the story of his wife’s call after his son had pulled a bowl of boiling water from the stove. It is a truly deep moment and was an awaking of what it means to be a father.
Matt talks about how you get through those tough family moments.
Tell me the story about how you and your partner created balance in your relationship? What is the key to maintaining a good relationship?
Mathew met his wife in the home country, New Zealand and after sometime they moved back to Europe. Once the children were born they did not have a lot of resources available to help. Matt believes this made them close and gave them a solid relationship.
Matt believes the key is communication. He discusses how his kids are now involved in numerous activities and now that they are out and about, Matt and Doris are finding more time together.
Matt talks about the need to reinvent himself to be a better husband and father.
Give the listeners your experience in balancing career and family. What in your opinion is the key?
Mathew talks about the pressure of the job, travel and the juggling act. Matt believes it is important to find time to attend the things that are important to the kids; sport, parent teacher nights etc.
Matt is away 2-3 nights when he travels. When home he ensures that the family have dinner together with no distractions.
Matt discusses the common issues with children’s vision.
He talks about a lack of parents understanding of the relationship between vision and learning. He believes that there is not enough importance placed on vision.
37% of the population require vision correction.
Because eye sight is a non-tangible asset, and people who do not have perfect eye-sight, don’t really know it and create compensatory techniques.
Matt talks about some of the things to look for in children in vision impairment, including, but not limited to:
- Turning the head when looking at something;
- Closing one eye;
- Rubbing their eyes a lot;
- Using a finger a lot to guide their reading;
- Avoidance of close work; and more.
Matt then talks about the reasons parents are impeded from having their children tested.
There is no-longer a stigma attached to glasses etc. in fact they are trendy.
Matt believes price is still a barrier, but also emphasises the investment and discusses subsidies.
Matt reminds parents to get their eyes tested every two years.
What is your biggest worry when it comes to your children and how/what are you doing to mitigate these concerns?
Mathew’s biggest worry is his children being caught up in the wrong crowd.
He is not naive and recognises that they will experiment and try things. He is working hard to maintain an approachable relationship and helping them make good choices.
Matt talks deeply about communicating with your children and changing that communication as you get older.
What one thing would you change to help you be a better dad?
Having a job that required less travel. Spending more time with the children.
- Favorite Dad Toy: Anything that gets you outside
- Book: No specific book – more Personal Development
- Ensure you get time for yourself: Grab it when I can – surf and ride the motorbike
- Innovative Discipline: Let it go and come back to it when they are calm
- Family Tradition: Dinner around the table daily with a special touch at the end.
- Personal Habit: Trying to stay young and fit
Be honest and confident and don’t try and be something that you are not.
Try to create those moments
Linked In – Matthew Hullett